Think Confident, Be Confident: A Four-Step Program to Eliminate Doubt and Achieve Lifelong Self-Esteem

Leslie Sokol, Ph.D. and Marci Fox, Ph.D.

Most of us desire fulfillment in love, relationships, and work. Whether that means truly and fully appreciating life’s bounty, or striving for more, self-doubt and lack of confidence serve as major obstacles to achieving these goals. Drs. Sokol and Fox have identified two core issues – self-doubt and lack of confidence—as a rampant difficulty which few people know how to address, let alone conquer. Many of us simply live with it as the status quo and therefore never achieve our full potential. We spend too much time second-guessing and criticizing ourselves. And when we do that, we interfere with our full capacity to thrive in situations that matter to us, whether in work, sports, family, parenting, social relationships, or romance. Think Confident, Be Confident is the first self-help guide ever to eliminate doubt and increase confidence using cognitive therapy principles.

 

Think Confident, Be Confident offers a unique, interactive, extremely effective four-step program based on the scientifically researched method of cognitive therapy as well as their clinical expertise. Sokol and Fox’s common sense, practical, problem-solving strategies are based on the primary cognitive therapy premise: How we think affects how we feel and what we do. Their four-step program gives individuals a systematic approach whose powerful strategies will help you to understand, examine, and eliminate self-doubt, and then build and sustain confidence. Step One, Label It, consists of recognizing the clues that doubt has surfaced, and putting a label on them. Step Two, Question It, is about examining and evaluating the trueness of the doubt, which almost always feels real but is typically unwarranted. Step Three, Rethink It, helps readers to replace their doubt-driven rules and strategies with confidence and then name and chip away at your doubt label so that you can replace it with a more accurate confident belief. Step Four, Take Action, teaches readers to think and behave effectively and fearlessly, and shows them how they can win on a variety of playing fields.

 

Think Confident, Be Confident will teach you to conquer doubt and unleash your true confidence. You’ll learn that when you are confident you believe in yourself no matter what situation you are facing. Self-esteem and feeling good are just temporary fixes. Conditional self-esteem without cognitive restructuring has been shown to be a temporary fix. The doubt squashing and confidence-building skills in Think Confident, Be Confident are for life.

 

Authors Leslie Sokol, Ph.D. and Marci G. Fox, Ph.D. are internationally recognized psychologists in the field of cognitive therapy, or CT, widely regarded as the most effective form of therapy on the market today.



Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens


Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens is a practical and straightforward program for eliminating self-doubt and increasing confidence and self-esteem. Self-confidence can be negatively impacted during the teenage years because teens and young adults become more vulnerable to peer pressure, self-doubt, depression, and anxiety. We use teens stories to help readers learn to effectively face and build their confidence in their social and family life, performances at school, sports, extracurricular activities and work, and difficult life events.

Praise for Think Confident, Be Confident


"Think Confident, Be Confident by Leslie Sokol and Marci Fox is a clear- thinking, helpful guide to put your self-doubts behind you so you can get ahead with your life. Filled with practical and easy-to-follow techniques, you will find yourself changing old patterns of thinking to feel like new again."
—Robert L. Leahy, Ph.D., Author of Anxiety Free: Unravel your fears before they unravel you

"Drs. Sokol and Fox draw upon the science of cognitive therapy to help lift readers out of doubt. Think Confident, Be Confident shows you how to use moments of self-doubt as fertile ground to develop lasting self-confidence. Doubt you can do it? Think again."
—Dennis Greenberger, Ph.D and Christine A. Padesky, Ph.D, Authors of Mind Over Mood

"Drs. Sokol and Fox provide a clear path from doubt to confidence, based on tried and true cognitive strategies that have been used for decades to transform negative thinking into realistic thinking. Think Confident, Be Confident is well-written and the approach taken is straightforward and practical. This book will provide much needed relief to those who struggle with unnecessary doubt!"
—Martin M. Antony, Ph.D., ABPP, Author of The Anti-Anxiety Workbook

"Although doubt can have several positive forms (rational skepticism; "reasonable doubt" in criminal cases), doubt can also undermine self-esteem, cripple effective decision-making, and in the extreme lead to anxiety and/ or depression. Think Confident, Be Confident discusses the clinical aspects of doubt. Written by world-leading experts in Cognitive Therapy, but at an easily accessible level by practitioners, this book is a definitive source for assessment and intervention with doubt. My prediction is that Think Confident, Be Confident will serve as the sourcebook in this area, and is recommended to anyone who works with patients who experience pathological or clinical doubt."
—Keith S. Dobson, Ph.D., President, Academy of Cognitive Therapy

Praise for Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens


""Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens is a must read and a truly valuable resource for teenagers, parents, teachers, educators, social workers, psychologists and counselors. Drs. Fox and Sokol, true experts in the field of cognitive therapy and long-time colleagues, bring the principles of cognitive behavioral therapy to help teens successfully navigate life's bumpy roads. Every teen can benefit from learning how to reduce self-doubt, increase self-confidence and learn to be effective no matter what the situation."
—Aaron T. Beck, M.D. father of cognitive therapy and President Emeritus of the Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy

“Since it was first developed by Aaron T. Beck, Cognitive Therapy (CT) has continued to grow and mature. From the early days of treating depression in adults, CT has been successfully applied to every patient population, virtually every psychological disorder, in almost every treatment setting, and in every treatment modality. This has occurred because of the clinical skills, creativity, and talents of a number of therapists. Leslie Sokol and Marci Fox are among that creative group. In their book, "Think Confident, be Confident for Teens" they have addressed a common developmental problem, low self esteem, in a very vulnerable group, teenagers. They have written a readable and useful book that is filled with the kind of interventions for which CT is well known. Their approach is active, directive, problem-focused and solution oriented. Using a number of case vignettes they draw the reader into the process. The result is emotional growth and a sense of personal efficacy with the belief that "I CAN do what I need to do." Following what Fox and Sokol have laid out, it would be difficult for a teen to continue to feel badly about themselves. This is an essential book for parents, teachers, and, of course, teens.”
—Arthur Freeman, Ed.D, ABPP, faculty in the department of behavioral medicine at Midwestern University

“Growing as a teen means giving yourself the tools to succeed in life. This book is like your personal toolbox. Read it and carry it with you on your personal road to success.”
—William Sears, Pediatrician, author of The Successful Child

“No one should travel through adolescence alone! Marci Fox and Leslie Sokol ensure this is not the case by offering Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens, a user-friendly coping-skills manual, as an essential companion on the journey. Fox and Sokol score with a workbook that is finely tailored to suit the needs of teenagers who are working to overcome their self-doubt, fragile self-esteem, perfectionism, painful self-consciousness, and avoidance.”
—Robert D. Friedberg, PhD, ABPP, ACT, associate director of clinical training at the Pacific Graduate School of Professional Psychology at Palo Alto University

Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens is an outstanding addition to the self-help literature for adolescents. Fox and Sokol have translated the powerful tools of cognitive behavioral therapy into a readable and relevant manual. Common dilemmas that teens face serve as illustrations and bring to life principles that can help young readers through a challenging and pivotal stage of development.”
—Donna M. Sudak, MD, ACT, founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy and president of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy

“Adolescence is often characterized by severe self-doubt and worry that can create significant distress for teenagers and their families and negatively impact academic, social, and emotional functioning. Are these extreme reactions an inevitable part of the teenage transition? No! Sokol and Fox show how adolescence can be the foundation for a lifetime of self-confidence.”
—Dennis Greenberger, PhD, coauthor of Mind Over Mood

“Being a teen can be tough. From stresses at home or at school to problems with friends, sometimes it can feel like it’s just too much. Self-doubt can creep in, leading to feelings of anxiety, worry, frustration, and sadness. There’s good news, though. Based on the latest science and strategies that really work, Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens offers simple, useful tips that will put you on a confident path and help you see yourself in a positive, realistic light. This quick-read book can help you handle whatever comes your way.”
—Mark A. Reinecke, PhD, ABPP, ACT, professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine

“Adolescence can be a time when self-reflection and newly developed thinking styles can be a challenge. Following the lead of cognitive theory, Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens guides the adolescent reader though experiences and activities that will shape a healthy and more confident thinking style. A valuable resource for teens, with potential to prevent unwanted emotional turmoil.”
—Philip C. Kendall, PhD, ABPP, distinguished university professor and Laura H. Carnell Professor of Psychology at Temple University

Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens is a practical, clear, and powerful guide young people can use to boost their confidence and face the inevitable obstacles of life. Filled with forms, examples, and empowering guidelines, this book will give teens the tools to take on the challenges of life.”
—Robert L. Leahy, PhD, director of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy and author of Beat the Blues Before They Beat You, The Worry Cure, and Anxiety Free

“In an ideal world, Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens would be required reading in high school curricula. Speaking directly to teens on matters that concern them most, Fox and Sokol succeed in offering evidence-based ways teens can reduce their social self-consciousness, improve their outlook on themselves and their lives, and be more confident and effective in handling the sorts of stresses that teens know all too well. Adolescents suffering from that common malady known as insecurity will benefit significantly from learning the lessons taught by this valuable book.”
—Cory F. Newman, PhD, ABPP, professor of psychology in psychiatry and director of the Center for Cognitive Therapy at the University of Pennsylvania